tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post3659268574466469168..comments2024-03-24T13:11:50.521+02:00Comments on Alexia's Chronicles: Guest Post: Erotica vs PornAlexiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14982660901323181179noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-78275819591770966472012-04-21T13:29:49.246+02:002012-04-21T13:29:49.246+02:00Thank you. And you're not the only one. I was ...Thank you. And you're not the only one. I was embarrassed at first when I started reading those kind of books and used to try to hide it, but I never once thought it was porn. After a while, I just thought, well, it's romance, what's wrong with reading that? Now, I'll take an erotic romance book wherever I go without being embarrassed and I write it too. Some books, mine in perticular, just wouldn't sound right without the sex.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-67848348626612966432012-04-20T14:01:44.403+02:002012-04-20T14:01:44.403+02:00I had the same problem with people judging when th...I had the same problem with people judging when they found out I read Erotic Romances - I don't understand what the big deal is? Why is this topic always such an issue? I love reading erotica novels - so, haters to the left :) lol xxAlexiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14982660901323181179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-21223454360585850642012-04-20T13:32:17.324+02:002012-04-20T13:32:17.324+02:00Interesting blog on an old age discussion.
I crin...Interesting blog on an old age discussion. <br />I cringe every time when I announce I read/write Romantica or Erotic Romance stories, and straight away the snickers come and the "ahhh, yeah right ...porn" <br />Mostly now it isn't worth wasting my breath over a person who can't differentiate from the two. Nothing I have to say will matter.<br /><br />We can only stay true to ourselves and our muse, and create the best story we know how for our characters.<br />Thanks Alexia and Great Post Natalie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-85653150301030603202012-04-18T22:40:14.561+02:002012-04-18T22:40:14.561+02:00Erotica has connective tissue (no pun intended) be...Erotica has connective tissue (no pun intended) between characters in a storyline. Porn is purely about the mechanics. I like both.James Straithttp://www.dejavualloveragainbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-38564710902057797952012-04-18T09:14:10.205+02:002012-04-18T09:14:10.205+02:00I really enjoyed reading Natalie's post, and a...I really enjoyed reading Natalie's post, and all the subsequent comments. Very interesting and thought provoking! Good job guys!!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09445257345743392828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-88079132624037753262012-04-17T20:30:25.547+02:002012-04-17T20:30:25.547+02:00Yeah, I've accidentally downloaded a couple bo...Yeah, I've accidentally downloaded a couple books that I thought were erotica, but ended up being porn. I think you've explained the difference very well. I've also seen a few that were obviously porn and wondered how they got past Amazon's "no porn" filters.Amandahttp://www.livinglearninglovinglife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-5035179827772095172012-04-16T23:42:21.226+02:002012-04-16T23:42:21.226+02:00Funny thing too, sometimes there isn't that mu...Funny thing too, sometimes there isn't that much sex in erotic romance. I read one book that had one sex scene--only one! <br /><br />My first published erotic book had four sex scenes, that's all.<br /><br />It kind of makes your wonder what all the fuss is about.Janice Seagraveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576031935823587485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-35502630642403491922012-04-16T22:54:30.838+02:002012-04-16T22:54:30.838+02:00Interesting read.Interesting read.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08511022914892269218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-15009169572197375052012-04-16T21:53:45.210+02:002012-04-16T21:53:45.210+02:00There's also a difference between erotic roman...There's also a difference between erotic romance and erotica. In erotic romance, the romance is the focus of the story. In erotica, sex is the focus but the story is still there. Erotic romance requires a happily ever after ending. Erotica does not. Porn is for entertainment only. I write erotica and erotic romance, and I enjoy them both. Porn...I can take it or leave it.Amelia Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03778771052072403010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-84569545925250865262012-04-16T17:43:29.209+02:002012-04-16T17:43:29.209+02:00I agree with you, Erotica and porn are entirely di...I agree with you, Erotica and porn are entirely different. When I think of porn it brings to mind straight sex (not literally) no emotion, no feeling, just sex. With Erotica you delve into the lives of the characters and share intimate moments with them. Even if those intimate moments may be more intense than what you would expect... if there's a story that allows you to become involved in the characters lives it's Erotica.Michelle Hugheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03667655940101782936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-73507787446452573002012-04-16T16:34:51.278+02:002012-04-16T16:34:51.278+02:00That is the best bit, imagining yourself to be the...That is the best bit, imagining yourself to be the one being swept of your feet and end in a tangled, sweaty mess on the bed... Or floor... Or bath... With a completely gorgeous man :P<br /><br />I find it really easy to write about my characters being in love, but I think that might be because I'm in love myself, so I just have to think about how I react when I'm around Reece, or how he makes me feel when he does stuff, or the look in his eyes when he looks at me and tells me he loves me. Ahhh... I love that :PNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-77367837994545223792012-04-16T16:31:39.559+02:002012-04-16T16:31:39.559+02:00I do agree with you there. There are a lot of book...I do agree with you there. There are a lot of books on amazon too that I would call 'porn' not erotic romance.<br />Some, for example, with the titles: 'Mummy wants my c**k' and 'Daddy wants my virginity'. For me, anything with those titles is NOT romance. That is just sick. That's not even porn really.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-68059664618010832062012-04-16T16:23:56.300+02:002012-04-16T16:23:56.300+02:00What do you think about the topic of Erotica vs Po...What do you think about the topic of Erotica vs Porn?Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-11505370571353406822012-04-16T16:23:28.296+02:002012-04-16T16:23:28.296+02:00Oh I agree and I'm not blaming people with no ...Oh I agree and I'm not blaming people with no experience, I aimed this post towards those who knew what they were saying when they were saying it. My publisher had an interview about the erotic books she sells, and the comments made were all horrible. Everyone at eXtasy books said their bit on the books they wrote, but the majority of people, men in perticular who commented saying that erotica was 'porn for women'. It's sexist for starters, but to say that the romance we erotic authors write in our books is nothing but porn, it is insulting.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-23570643518132343422012-04-16T16:20:05.756+02:002012-04-16T16:20:05.756+02:00I'm sure if I was to write something I'd n...I'm sure if I was to write something I'd never written before, for example, m/m/f etc, then I would be the one to watch something so I can see what goes on in the world... Or bed... Of limbs :P Lol<br />We all enjoy different things. I prefer erotic paranormal romance books to just erotic romance. That's just because I love vampires, werewolves, demons etc rather than reading about normal people.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-25632039983460893442012-04-16T16:16:30.514+02:002012-04-16T16:16:30.514+02:00Very interesting piece. But please don't blame...Very interesting piece. But please don't blame people with little (or no) experience of either erotica or pornography, who might be confused - I'm sure most people don't mean to be insulting to the authors concerned, and until reading something like this, may not appreciate the difference.Rachel Cotterillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08969719330048416996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-91651017697935340302012-04-16T15:45:25.734+02:002012-04-16T15:45:25.734+02:00I had been wondering about that myself but I feel ...I had been wondering about that myself but I feel you have cleared it up.Jackie Rosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-33093462035081180272012-04-16T15:03:13.776+02:002012-04-16T15:03:13.776+02:00I completely agree! You walk such a fine line when...I completely agree! You walk such a fine line when writing an erotic romance novel... use one word that might be too 'smexy' - it changes everything!Alexiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14982660901323181179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-83735495178956395482012-04-16T15:01:21.999+02:002012-04-16T15:01:21.999+02:00I totally agree with the way that you define the d...I totally agree with the way that you define the differences between erotica and porn. I am not against either, if that is what another person enjoys. I don't personally read erotica- not because I am a prude, but because I find it unnecessary. (Only an opinion for myself.) By the same token, I don't enjoy romance novels that are only romance and don't have a good story to carry it. I think that the real problem comes in when people insist on putting derogatory labels on anything just to discourage others away from what someone has determined is "unsuitable".JulieJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845100273633881750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-59191874025020727482012-04-16T14:58:13.705+02:002012-04-16T14:58:13.705+02:00As a challenge to myself I wrote a single, erotic ...As a challenge to myself I wrote a single, erotic romance short story for my anthology. Let me tell you, it was the most difficult piece I have ever written. It's like walking on a footpath through a swamp. One step off the path and you're up to your waist in porn on one side, or purple-prose on the other. Those who stay on the path have my utmost respect, as a writer AND a reader.SinMacDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08871742845349370050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-69838029473475419842012-04-16T14:33:49.114+02:002012-04-16T14:33:49.114+02:00Totally agree with you Storm - thanks for stopping...Totally agree with you Storm - thanks for stopping by :)Alexiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14982660901323181179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-11222273929279902992012-04-16T14:28:38.928+02:002012-04-16T14:28:38.928+02:00The way I see it, the reason for this misunderstan...The way I see it, the reason for this misunderstanding is the type of books coming out now, due to self publishing. There was a huge furore over smashwords banning certain "erotica". But, that was not really erotica, that was porn. When you can get both porn and erotica in books, it is easy to misjudge and club both in the same genre.<br />But Natalie, I completely agree about the story part. If you remove the sex out of porn, you are left with nothing at all. Here too, porn has now started blurring the lines, albeit with bad acting and bad scripts.<br />So, will this misunderstanding ever go away? I hope to, but I would not bet on it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-21910505309121994482012-04-16T13:33:10.871+02:002012-04-16T13:33:10.871+02:00Excellent post! As a writer of erotic romance, I c...Excellent post! As a writer of erotic romance, I carefully avoid the use of some terminology that I find offensive to my feminist leanings. We know them, so I find no need to post them here. The author of erotic romance must first draw the reader into the world of the lovers with a true love story. The depiction of their expressions of love only tell a part of the story. It is the task of the reader to imagine themselves in the role of lover in order to complete the triangle.C.T. Blaisehttp://www.ctblaise.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-84541176114938631952012-04-16T11:38:21.875+02:002012-04-16T11:38:21.875+02:00Thanks Storm :) That just about summed up everythi...Thanks Storm :) That just about summed up everything I said in sixteen words lolNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00960001099146263024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126616368409693491.post-19457580769735199972012-04-16T11:14:28.985+02:002012-04-16T11:14:28.985+02:00Nice post! I've always said, and you captured ...Nice post! I've always said, and you captured it very well here, to me, Erotica is romance AND sex, -- porn is sex without love. If you add love to sex you have romance not porn.Storm Savagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15039610591043776688noreply@blogger.com